When we met our daughter we were told she had siblings. The 3 youngest were taken from the home. Why was our daughter seperated? Where are her little brothers? Upon our return to court we found out the grandmother had taken the 2 little boys. Due to our daughter's age (5 months ) when taken from the home, the Russian government didn't consider her a sibling since they did not live together for a year. When a bed was available they moved her from the hospital to the Baby Home.
When I was in Russia I had a feeling the grandmother lost her grandaughter and there was more to the story. If we wait until our daughter is old enough to make this decision to find or not to find her birth family, maybe these answers would never be available.
I am not sure if our daughter will ever want this information, but if she does it will be in the safe deposit box for her. This is solely for her. I could care less about anything except to offer the grandparents the peace of mind that their lost grandchild is safe and loved.
The first thing written to me from her paternal grandmother ".....when we heard of her adoption I was nervous, now I can be calm. Your contact is much appreciated....."
Today, I sit satisfied for accomplishing what I intended to do for our daughter. Sad for some of the circumstances which seperated 5 siblings (3 live with this grandmother, 1 resides with the maternal grandmother (she has requested contact & a photo too), our loving & beautiful daughter who makes each and everyday of my life so perfect will be with us FOREVER. Disappointed that my husband and I sit on the opposite end of the spectrum adamantly.
Sometimes it is easy to voice our opinions. Easy to disagree with each other and move forward. However making a lifelong decision for your child complicates issues.
Do these faces look familiar...
